Dear Family Advisor Archive June 2009

1. My mother-in-law needs to have her own place, rather than live with us -- but my husband disagrees. July 04, 2009

   Find out how to deal with the stress of having your mother-in-law live with you when it causes marriage problems between you and your spouse. It's always tough when caregiving issues touch new marriages....  Read more

   Carol O'Dell, Caring.com contributing editor
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2. My husband refuses to listen to me or follow the doctor's advice. How can I be a caregiver if he fights me at every turn? June 27, 2009

   A helpful article being both a spouse and caregiver can pose special challenges, and what to do about them. Contrary to belief, we aren’t joined at the hip, and each person must take accountability for himself—body, mind, spirit, and especially personal choices....  Read more

   Carol O'Dell, Caring.com contributing editor
   
   
3. I'm falling in love with my dad's home health aide, but Dad has a crush on her, too. It's really awkward. June 15, 2009

   A helpful article on dealing with the ramifications of falling in love with a parent's caregiver. Although it is not uncommon the consequences are serious and should be carefully thought through....  Read more

   Carol O'Dell, Caring.com contributing editor
   
   
4. My parents' caregiver veers between being unresponsive to the rest of the family or freaking out that nobody helps. June 08, 2009

   How to handle a family caregiver who seems too bossy and uninterested in help unless there's a crisis. Caregiving can turn the nicest people into control freaks. And his personality may be one in which he still needs to learn how to "play well with others" ...  Read more

   Carol O'Dell, Caring.com contributing editor