This article is really an eye opener, particularly the last trap. Before my dad died I promised him that I would take care of my mom. My husband and I have taken care of my mom for 6 years in our home. She doesn't have Alzheimer's but does have some dementia. As her other health problems increase, plus the dementia, it is getting more difficult to keep that promise. I'm starting to think that a nursing home might be the better option, but feel so guilty even thinking about this. I just want what is best for her care. This is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.

Two years ago my husband and I relocated to live with my mom. Four years ago my dad passed away. Mom has had breast cancer, heart failure and is practically blind because of glaucoma. I have one brother that lives here but does not help at all in fact he doesn't even speek to me because he thinks I want her "money". We took a financial loss moving here and I work prn at a hospital. We will both be getting equal shares after her death and it really isn't that much money. I really feel so alone in this because I hate to complain to my husband because he is so understanding of the situation. This blog really helps put the stress in prospective.