De-Stressing End-of-Life Care NOW (Whatever Healthcare Reform Brings)

Thank you so much for your article. You explained it in such a way that felt your compassion for your parents. I have written several articles that I'd like to share: http://www.examiner.com/x-20416-Virginia-Beach-Elder-Care-Examiner We must help each other. The reality is: Each one of us will either become a caregiver, or need to have someone care for us. We cannot excape it! Please live a posting on the site. By the way, hospice helps not only the dying, but most especially the living family members. I would not have made it without them.

FIRST OF ALL-REGARDING HEALTH CARE REFORM-BE SURE TO FOCUS ON FACT AND NOT RUMOR. BE VERY CAUTIOUS NOT TO FALL PREY TO RUMOR AND MEDIA HYPE. BEFORE YOU REACT, GET EVERY FACT! Advance directives put the patient in control. Be sure to not only have it in writing-have a conversation with those you have designated to speak on your behalf to ensure that they know what your wishes are. Hospice philosphy can offer a beautiful experience to all. I too have "done it both ways" (i.e. lost loved ones tragically & suddenly vs. under Hospice care. I'll take Hospice any day!) Each of us will face death some day. Why not make it loving, reflective,and appreciative of the human being you are caring for.

Thanks for helping sort out things. Although I feel only those of us facing end of life issues sees this information. Looks like when nothing else would get the american public off the proverbial couch health care reform did and about time too.

ms Mad Dog - I interpreted the comment a bit differently, to mean that real life is not similar to TV life. I don't think the implication was that nurses don't care or that one should not bother with CPR!! I believe the message was not to buy in to the hollywood representation of end-of-life, don't delay putting your wishes in writing and discussing your desires.

So the percentage of 70 and over don't survive CPR, is it Nurse Sara who would decide because of age don't bother?? Heaven help us old folks because a lot of young people would go with the don't bother routine.