Family Financial Feud: Does This TV Plotline Sound Familiar?

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I would have liked to seen that TV show, even if it was somewhat unrealistic at the end. Both my aging parents have Alz. I care for both at home, they live with me. I know the time will come when I will have to place them into a facility and it will not be easy. For me I will probably not say too much about why they are moving to the facility. They will not be able to reason and would do us no good to debate it. They will kick, cry and have meltdowns I'm sure for the first week or month. Because it is a big change. I dealt with this when I first took them to our local adult daycare center. After 4 visits they got use to it and now dont mind going at all. I simply tell them I have to go to work and I'll be back to pick them up afterwards. By the third time they pleaded with me to not leave them there. I felt very guilty, and stressed over it all day! I was going to stop taking them, cause I felt it wasn't worth it. Now I'm glad I didn't give up so quickly. Life is better when I get a break. I'm also rearing a 3 yr old daughter and I need to devout time to her too. It's a horrible feeling when I have to ignore their pleas and feelings. It feels like I'm invalidating them. But what we must remember is that now they no longer can see what is best for them and we do, and must carry it out no matter how much the kick and scream..... I'm the parent now.

I was a caregiver to a 61 year old female, non-verbal and was born with with Down Syndrome and retardation. I took her into my home in May of 1996. She had lived for 41 years in an institution and then was placed in a group home for 3 1/2 years before we took her. For 11 1/2 years she lived with us until November of 2007. My husband and I grew to love her as one of our children even know she was an adult. 2006 she started showing signs of dementia and was starting to show signs of having seizures. As the year wore on she showed more signs, ie: not being able to feed herself at times, we had to help her walk, sometimes my husband would have to pick her up and carry her. She was forgetting how to get around. As the following year progessed she got to be more work. We had to finally decide if we should place her. We took time to see where she might get more care seeing I was burning out. This was very hard for us to decide. But with others and her doctor they said this was the best for us and for her. Its been two years an we still miss her even though we see her from time to time. This has been hard to do because she doesn't even recognize us any longer. We think of her often and all the love and fun we had with her. We will always keep her in our minds and heart. ~Missing her~

I'm disappointed. Read this article hoping for answers and all it did was ask our opinion. I need answers.