In dating lingo, it's known as "reading the memo." There's the bore who rambles on about himself the entire evening (narcissist), the annoying guy who orders for you (control freak), the dude who has never, ever been in a long-term relationship (commitmentphobe).
In each case, a "memo" is delivered -- key information or insight into a person is imparted -- but it's not always "read" by the other party. Sometimes it's ignored, sometimes denial plays a role, other times it's just glossed over -- usually at the other party's peril. When the light bulb moment does occur down the track, it's often too late to avoid pain, grief, or suffering.
The same concept holds true in caregiving circles.
In an unscientific study of adult-children caregivers who attend my Sunday morning dance class in San Francisco, I've found that in every case ailing parents offered clues that all wasn't well with them and that it was time to pay closer attention... Read more


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