Comment on Bathing Blocks: When an Elder Refuses to Bathe

RightatHome — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 15:16:00 -0000

Great article Kate, I work on two elder care blogs and bathing is always a hot issue for us. A big danger issue that we see is shower doors. They are not strong enough to support the weight of an adult and are often relied upon dangerously. Check out the more here: http://www.rightathome.net/seniorhomecare/?p=155. One of the best tips that we have seen work is to give the elder bathing the most power possible. Let them pick the bathing time and shampoo and soap. This seems to help them feel more comfortable. If you are interested, check out more on our Senior Home Care Blog: http://www.rightathome.net/seniorhomecare. Best, Bill

Comment on Yummy Soft Foods For Seniors

cmacp — Sat, 30 May 2009 10:27:59 -0000

What a wonderful list of suggested resources. I've been caring for my brain injured 57 yr old husband for 2 yrs now. There are so many ordinary things that we take for granted, - like the ability to swallow food. Yet the process of moving the food through the mouth and down the throat without choking - is an incredibly complicated process. Just eating wears him out because every swallow is an effort requiring intense concentration. I'm definately going to check out the resources mentioned because I cook and prepare 95% of what he eats and I need new suggestions.

Comment on Kicked Off Hospice for Not Dying Soon Enough

Anonymous — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 17:56:40 -0000

It's really nice to know government hospice includes home care, or dying at home. Thanks.

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

esco198025 — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 19:39:24 -0000

Great article. My parents are in a nursing home and these steps are great advice www.ionmeds.com

Comment on 10 Tips for Senior Care in a Rocky Economy

Wed, 14 Jan 2009 00:30:38 -0000

My mother has moved into a low income apartment because she can't afford to live in her home. She continues to pay for her fuel in her home until we can sell it. Is there something out there to help pay for the high fuel costs?

Comment on Enter the Caregiving Tough Love Zone

love torn — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 14:43:57 -0000

You of coarse were right . Many years ago I had a similar problem with my father in law . We were called by my mother -in law saying he had been very sick for a week and she could not get him to go to the DR. When we got there his skin color was Grey and he was dehydrated and more . My husband started to do the child pleading thing ---you need to go to the hospital etc. I said loudly NO you are going to the Hospital and if you don't come with us I am calling an ambulance . He came with us and spent the next 2 months in hospital with diabetis and lung cancer and got to live another year and meet 1 more grand child born into the world. Love, Torn

Comment on Home-Spun Gift Certificates: Unique, Meaningful, and Budget-Flexible

Anonymous — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 21:52:56 -0000

Kate, what a great list, neat ideas, thank you! For #11's "A drive anywhere you want," readers can even consider a new service, a chauffeur driving the senior's car (or an Avis rental car if desired). It's only $35.65/hour and nice for family holidays, medical appointments, outings with friends, etc. The nice thing is chauffeurs can also be a concierge to help at the grocery store. The concept was featured on this Rachael Ray Show segment on Senior Driving: http://www.rachaelrayshow.com/show/segments/view/senior-driving/

Comment on Home-Spun Gift Certificates: Unique, Meaningful, and Budget-Flexible

Adrianna — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 19:15:24 -0000

Hi Kate, thanks for the great post. For more gift ideas for seniors with vision loss, take a look at the American Foundation for the Blind's new Holiday Guide at www.afb.org/seniorsite/holidayguide. Happy holidays!

Comment on 6 Ideas for Getting Time Alone at Home When You're a Caregiver

Anonymous — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 21:37:55 -0000

Good ideas for those who are financially solid, but for those of us who don't have a lot of options, it would be helpful to post some ideas on how to explain to the seniors in our lives that it's good for them and for us to have some private time. Seniors are very sensitive to this as they tend to view themselves as burdens (a byproduct of living in a society that is only now beginning to understand seniors and their needs.) The ideal solution of course, would be to have several people living in the house as that gives seniors lots of companionship and support which is what they really need and can't get from just one person. A variation on the African proverb and Senator Clinton's remark that "it takes a village to raise a child" would be it takes a village to sustain an elder.

Comment on 10 "Boredom Busters" for Frail Seniors

Anonymous — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 03:45:04 -0000

My youngest unmarried sister and a maid keeps my mom company at home. I try to go over as often as i could and i realized that Mom enjoys talking about her past. I learned a lot about our family, grandparents, greatgrandparents and extended families who came from as far as Burma and China as a result! Where we come from, we enjoy henna (a plant based paint) and use it to decorate our hands and feet with it. Henna is especially a celebrate painting activity for the bride at her wedding. So some times we do this together. Mom loves having henna in her hair too to hide her grey.

Comment on 10 "Boredom Busters" for Frail Seniors

Kate Rauch — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 17:43:42 -0000

Yes! Fish, birds, and small animals are great ideas -- many thanks. (Some nursing homes are open to these, as well.) Guinea pigs are gentle, easy to care for, and can really bond with their humans just by being held (they show affection with little nuzzling sounds). Most humane societies and shelters can provide good advice on matching pets with people, based on mutual needs. Board games and puzzles are also good standbys; excellent ways to keep the mind active when the body needs to be more low key. And there's so many to choose from -- you can mix it up.

Comment on 10 "Boredom Busters" for Frail Seniors

Mon, 10 Nov 2008 13:18:38 -0000

My 87 year old Mom spends most of her time in bed or sitting in her bed-side chair. She loves watching her two pets - a beta fish and a parakeet. TIPS: Get the brightest colored beta you can find and keep it in a small, plain, clear vase. That makes it easy to see because it is a bright colored object moving in clear space. If there are decorations in the vase, the fish is hard to pick out visually. We keep it on or near her bed table so it's nearby when she wants to watch it. It's inexpensive, easy to take care of, and quiet. She loves watching it. The parakeet is kept in an aquarium, with a wire grid on top. It's in her line of sight on a table in front of a window. The bird does need toys and ours is very acive. Mom watches him all day long and enjoys his antics. The aquarium keeps the area clean and the bird loves it much better than he did his cage. Again, the clear glass is not distracting like the wires of a cage, and it's easier to watch what's going on inside. Again, get a colorful bird so it stands out against the clear glass and toys.

Comment on 10 "Boredom Busters" for Frail Seniors

Anonymous — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 13:08:06 -0000

Great list. Mom and I play scrabble and always have a challenging jigsaw puzzle going.

Comment on 6 Ideas for Getting Time Alone at Home When You're a Caregiver

Anonymous — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 05:31:18 -0000

These are great suggestions. I think many people that do care for their elderly parents fall into it and do not see themselves as a caregiver. They also don't realize the stress associated with seemingly just watching over mom or dad or both. As a former primary caregiver of a dying aunt, these are great ways for someone to get the time they need to rejuvenate themselves.

Comment on Vision Problems: New Ways to "Read" When Older Eyes Fail

Adrianna — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 17:10:48 -0000

Karen, thanks for the helpful article and for referencing AFB! We recently launched a new website called AFB Senior Site (www.afb.org/seniorsite) that provides vital information to seniors experiencing vision loss and their loved ones. Please check it out when you have a second, and keep the great articles coming. Thanks again.

Comment on Organizing Life Records Brings Relief to Seniors and Their Family

Anonymous — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 19:56:09 -0000

Organizing life records should be done by everyone, not just the elderly. My husband and I are in our early 50's and last year we were almost hit head on by a big rig out of control on an icy road. Life can end at any age. We should all be prepared for the worst.

Comment on Organizing Life Records Brings Relief to Seniors and Their Family

Anonymous — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 12:42:58 -0000

Dear Kate, Thanks for the excellent tips! Sometimes the way we look at things are not necessarily the way it is being looked at by the loved one we are caring for. I appreciate you pointing this out. Laura Heuer

Comment on For Family Caregivers, Saying "No" Is an Act of Love

Nell Bernstein — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 18:26:06 -0000

Thanks for this essential post. I found myself practicing your advice this weekend, before I had read it -- forgoing a visit to a parent with whom I visit regularly because my own work and family demands had me AND my husband and a breaking point already this particular week -- but was feeling, well, guilty. I'll be back at the next visit wholehearted rather than begrudging, and not beating myself up in between, thanks to your insightful post.

Comment on Falling: A Deadly Problem Helped by Prevention

FrancesJane — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 20:25:51 -0000

I see you recommend PT as one way to prevent falls. I'm 66 and 5 years ago suffered from Ramsay Hunt Syndrome, a form of shingles that attacks the cranial nerves. I now have minimal input from my right side vestibular (inner ear balance) nerve. I benefited so much from vestibular therapy given by a specially trained PT therapist that I went from walking with a cane all the time to keep my balance to needing the cane only in the dark. If you have balance issues, I highly recommend seeking out a trained vestibular therapist if you can find one.

Comment on Elders Keep Falling a Secret for Fear of Losing Independence

Tue, 07 Oct 2008 18:13:03 -0000

I can attest to the notion that our parents fear losing their independence. I have a 94 year old father with frontal lobe dementia and TIA's ( mini strokes) who lives at home alone on 4 acres. He has fallen several times. This week he climbed a 12 foot ladder, climbed on the roof, in the rain to clean out the gutters. Last January he had a TIA while his care-giver was with him, and never said one word about how he was feeling. An hour after she left, I called him and he was quite upset. I drove to his home. He told me that he had numbness on his right side, blurred vision, dizziness and weakness in both legs. His care-giver asked him if he wanted to go to the lake and feed the ducks. He said, "Yes". They went to the lake and he had to navigate many cement steps and a very rocky trail to where the ducks were. He told me, "I don't know how I ever did it without falling, I was so scared." I asked him if he told his care-giver how he was feeling and he said, "No, it was none of her damn business!" I took my father to the E.R and we were there for 4 hours while the doctor did tests to see if he had suffered another TIA. He had. The doctor told him he needed to be in assisted living now, and to consult with his primary care physician about living some where else. We went to his primary care physician the next day and he told Dad that if he did not go to assisted living that he needed a roommate full time at his home. Dad refused. By the way he does have the right to refuse as long as he is not conserved. I have spoked to APS on several occasions and that is what I have learned. I have also consulted with attorney's that specialize in the legal rights of seniors. All of Dad's medical providers have told him he needs a long term health care plan that he is willing to implement. As his agent for his health care, I have applied with him on his behalf to the Veteran's Home in Yountville, California. It is on 500 acres, is the best kept secret in the USA for Veteran's to live. We have made several visits there and he leaves liking the food, the friendly residents and the beauty of the grounds that are surrounded by vineyards and a 9 hole golf course they can play on M-Th without charge. It is amazing. This notion of a possible move down the road to the Veteran's Home has frightened my father and sister, who lives out of state so much that he has hired a law firm to come after me, so he can remain at his home. I had to hire an attorney just to protect myself, and at this point, have two women how check on my dad each day and stay for 2 hours. Fear and loss of control over my father's life has made his behavior change drastically. APS has visited him and will visit him again and suggest that he stop writing checks to various fraudulent companies. We have removed all of the loaded guns from the house and they are locked up at our house. It has been suggested the we remove all of the ladders from his property. We have not done that yet because he will probably purchase more ladders. My father is a maverick. I just want to keep him safe and happy. He is alone and isolated. It does not matter how good our intentions are for our parents, if they fear change, they will dig in their heals and hang on for dear life to what is familiar to them. I need to keep my health. I still have many years of life left. There is a line between letting our parent finish their journey of life where they feel safe, even if they are not safe, the law, and our desire to see to it that they are safe by providing what seems reasonable given our parents health problems. I wish all of the care-givers out there in the world the strength to know what our limitations are, and be able to say, "I will have no attachment to the outcome of anything, everything in life happens for a reason, it is what it is and it is my journey, or it is their journey". After weighing all of the facts, making sure that I am acting within the confines of the law, providing dad's "law firm" with documentation from all of his medical providers what they believe is in his best interest, I am stepping back, taking slow deep breaths and letting him finish his journey where he wants to be. I need to do this for my health. Joan Nelson

Comment on Adaptive Senior Clothing: A Welcome Solution to Dressing Challenges

TaliaGoldfarb — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 18:21:24 -0000

Hi there, My name is Talia Goldfarb, and I am the co-founder of Myself Belts - a one handed belt that promotes independence and assists with easy dressing. Our patented closure is an award winning design that allows people to fasten and unfasten their belt with only one hand. Perfect for individuals with hand dexterity difficulties, the Myself Belt helps to restore dignity and improve day to day life. The adult Myself Belts are available in a variety of sizes to fit 27-40 inch waists and are currently offered in brown leather. More styles should be along soon! Please visit our website at http://myselfbelts.com/larger_sized_adults_belts.cfm for more information. If you have any questions, feel free to contact me directly at talia@myselfbelts.com. Have a great day! -Talia

Comment on National Grandparents Day September 7: A Day to Reach Out to All Elderly

Kate Rauch — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 22:58:06 -0000

Thanks for your comments, Proudgrandpa, and I look forward to your blog. And yes, good luck and enjoy yourself.

Comment on Vision Problems: New Ways to "Read" When Older Eyes Fail

Proudgrandpa — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 20:27:45 -0000

Hello again, I am going to archive this article and ask your permission to reference it in one of my future blogs on Proudgrandpablog.com. The sadness of loss of function is not positive but people like you offering concrete "Caring" solution is. Thanks, NEIL

Comment on National Grandparents Day September 7: A Day to Reach Out to All Elderly

Proudgrandpa — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 20:21:02 -0000

Hello Kate, You may be able to tell from my screenname(also my Hub and Squidoo name) which side of this issue I will be coming in on. I was blessed to know 3 of my grandparents and my Mom shared stories of my paternal Grandpa so I got the benefit of all that wisdom. I will be launching my blog this week (how appropriate) and it is names Proudgrandpablog.com. My mission is to gather and share the positive stories about Grandparenting and give voice to the meaningful stories that many older folks would love to read and share. Wish me luck and thanks for your blog. I am off to read the other blog you wrote about your grandmother. I will be looking in on this blog. I love your title. NEIL

Comment on Vision Problems: New Ways to "Read" When Older Eyes Fail

Wed, 27 Aug 2008 00:47:16 -0000

Ask at your public library for a new product which many are carrying: Playaways. These are full books, individually on a unit the size of a credit card and can be worn around the neck and used with any earphones or earbugs. Easier for seniors to use as no individual CDs or tapes to change.

Comment on Shingles Vaccine Strongly Recommended for Seniors

Anonymous — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 23:09:34 -0000

I would like to point out, that Zostavax can cause shingles. I was a healthy 64 year old male who received the Zostavax vaccine on 2/5/08. Ten days later, my doctor diagnosed me with "classic shingles". He put me on Valtrex for 7 days and I was still (1 month later) suffering with red spots on my (right) chest, pain in my right arm and shoulder, and severe itching. I notified Merck and my doctor also did! I read Merck's "double blind" studies, and nowhere does it simply say: this vaccine can cause you to contract shingles. I have all the documentation as well as pictures. Please caution anyone who wants to gamble with their health.

Comment on Bathing Blocks: When an Elder Refuses to Bathe

Anonymous — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 16:11:51 -0000

My Grandmother has Alzheimer's and has gotten to the stage of needing help bathing. Luckily, my mother has a nice big shower, which makes it helpful. But, it is still a process, it takes a long time and is difficult. One thing we like to do for Grandma a few times a week is wash her hair. Even if we don't have time for a shower, having clean hair makes her feel better about herself. We have found a great product on an assistive technology website. It is called the Comfort Hair Wash Basin, and it works beautifully when doing my Grandmother's hair. On thing to remember, especially for a woman. Having your hair look good, will make you feel better all day long. I hope this helps a few families.

Comment on Navigating Senior Care in a Bleak Economy: Part 1

Kate Rauch — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 17:21:51 -0000

This is a great suggestion. I wonder is any meal services out there do this? It makes great sense, at least for people who can use a microwave and a have a little freezer space. Thanks so much.

Comment on Navigating Senior Care in a Bleak Economy: Part 1

mexilee — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 05:15:34 -0000

Hi, As I look back on the time when I was a beneficiary of the Meals on Wheels program, I feel that we can help each other in another way now. I realize not all participants have the facilities; however, many could easily get by with a weekly delivery of frozen meals, which might take some pressure off the high delivery costs. It might also reduce the need for the number of volunteers, whose time might be well used in another area of care. Thanks for listening.

Comment on "Wings" For Frail Seniors Who Can't Travel On Their Own

Anonymous — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 16:21:29 -0000

Having a professional nurse assist with travel costs about the same as having an unlicensed domestic helper in your home - $20 to $35 per hour (plus the cost of travel such as tickets and lodging). It makes sense to have the assurance of a licensed, insured , educated professional nurse to solve health situations as well as other problems that come up when you travel.

Comment on Shingles Vaccine Strongly Recommended for Seniors

Anonymous — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 15:41:17 -0000

The Immunization Action Coalition also has Q&A pieces about adult diseases/vaccines; e.g., zoster: http://www.immunize.org/catg.d/p4221.pdf Influenza: http://www.immunize.org/catg.d/p4208.pdf Pneumococcus: http://www.immunize.org/catg.d/p4213.pdf More are available at http://www.immunize.org/printmaterials/viewall.asp#quest

Comment on Cupboards Bare? Rising Food Prices Affect Seniors

Kate Rauch — Fri, 23 May 2008 21:31:03 -0000

Well said!

Comment on Cupboards Bare? Rising Food Prices Affect Seniors

Kate Rauch — Fri, 23 May 2008 21:30:57 -0000

Well said!

Comment on Cupboards Bare? Rising Food Prices Affect Seniors

Kate Rauch — Fri, 23 May 2008 21:30:53 -0000

Well said!

Comment on Cupboards Bare? Rising Food Prices Affect Seniors

Kate Rauch — Fri, 23 May 2008 21:30:48 -0000

Well said!

Comment on Cupboards Bare? Rising Food Prices Affect Seniors

MJB — Fri, 23 May 2008 19:44:25 -0000

Would like to see neighbors being more like neighbors. Looking after each other especially in these hard times. There are so many elderly people alone all the time. No one comes to visit. Just a little love goes a long way...

Comment on Mom Far Away? Cool Gift Ideas, and Yes, There's Still Time!

Kate Rauch — Mon, 05 May 2008 02:08:05 -0000

This is a wonderful idea, Patti. I'm so glad you shared it, because it sounds like something many others would be interested in. Thanks.

Comment on Mom Far Away? Cool Gift Ideas, and Yes, There's Still Time!

Patti — Mon, 05 May 2008 01:21:22 -0000

I went online and got my mother a gift certificate for a family history video. They will go to her assisted living facility and interview her about her life's stories and put the interview on a DVD. I did this for my in-laws for their 55th wedding anniversary and it went over so well, I decided to do it for my mom for Mother's Day. I wish I'd known about this when my Dad was still alive.

Comment on Embarrassment Assistance! The Gift of Plain Wrapping

Bex — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 03:15:42 -0000

Great tip, and important for seniors to maintain their dignity and privacy. Only problem is, although I want my aunt to have as much autonomy over her life as possible, I live in fear that she'll learn how to shop on the Web. Already, she's ordering more from catalogues than she--and I--can afford.

Comment on Playgrounds for Seniors

Kate Rauch — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 03:20:09 -0000

Well Diane, you were ahead of your time! Or maybe the rest of the USA is simply way behind. Since my post I've learned that the city of Novato, California is actually looking into building a senior playground -- encouraged by some residents. Can they really be the only one in the US? Meanwhile, keep on playing. No one says you have to stop as your kids get older (so I tell myself.)

Comment on Playgrounds for Seniors

Diane — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 00:31:36 -0000

I've always thought there should be adult playgrounds. When the kids were younger, we always climbed, crawled and slid with them and thought, then, adult playgrounds should be made.

Comment on Playgrounds for Seniors

Tue, 15 Apr 2008 07:06:51 -0000

Cool, looks like a place for the elderly to hang out and meet, although younger adults may also want a go on the equipment. I am not quite at the elderly stage yet, but the kid slides seem a bit small for me these days. Wonder which town in the US will be the first to try this idea out.

Comment on Playgrounds for Seniors

Kate Rauch — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 17:34:49 -0000

I like your continuing comments on fun and play activities for all ages, junkmaster Bernie. Yes, to intergenerational options. What a great idea for nursing homes and assisted living facilities. Or maybe for preschools -- safe, fun and healthy play areas for grandkids and grandparents. To me, this is forward thinking.

Comment on Playgrounds for Seniors

junkmaster — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 18:54:55 -0000

Wonderful, inspiring story. Inspiring enough to make me write my own - http://www.deepfun.com/2008/04/senior-playgrounds-contd.html - Thanks for this, for your work, your caring, your sense of fun.

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Kate Rauch — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 20:55:10 -0000

These comments are super helpful, Rudee. Simple, practical hints that can make the diapering business easier for the caregiver, and safer and more comfortable for the person needing care. Lucky Detroit patients if they're under you care.

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Tue, 08 Apr 2008 13:02:30 -0000

Hi Kate and thanks for your post on my blog. I do have some practical advice from a mom perspective. I have a profoundly impaired autistic daughter who is not continent. Keeping my house from smelling like a nursing home is a goal! Rachel gets a shower each and every day. Sponge bathing is not an option. We just do it. It takes about 30 minutes but is the highlight of her day. I keep a mattress pad on the mattress but cover that with a waterproof sheet. I then cover that with a top sheet which is the only thing that must be laundered daily. Before I figured this trick out, I had to wash the sheet AND mattress pad. They also have waterproof mattress covers that zip. I use one of these as a duvet cover for the down comforter she needs in the winter. That is a pain as it has to be cleaned at a laundromat. I wipe down the waterproof sheet daily by hand and replace it a few times a year. This routine saves the mattress--once that gets soaked, you've lost the battle. Use a barrier cream like Critic-Aid Paste (available without a script and on line). It takes only a thin layer applied to the bum and is effective in "preventing" breakdown. Or make your own paste: equal parts Vitamin A & D ointment mixed with zinc oxide diaper cream. This concoction provides a barrier but is easier to clean off than just plain old desitin cream. Recognize yeast skin infections. Red. Looks like "prickly heat". Is your charge a diabetic? Overweight? Smells AFTER a bath or shower? It may be yeast. Look under breasts, abdominal folds. If so, go to the foot care aisle of the drug store and buy some athletes foot powder (I like Desinex). Clean and dry the skin. Sprinkle the powder on areas of concern. Wash and dry skin before reapplying. Yeast loves warm and moist environments and needs antifungals to dry. I think that covers it! Rudee www.nursingpurls.blogspot.com

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Kate Rauch — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 03:54:40 -0000

Your experience as a nurse gives you valuable perspective Rudee -- thanks for sharing. Have any related advice for people caring for their incontinent parents at home? (Thanks for the address to your blog. Your post on heparin was super thought-provoking.)

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Tue, 08 Apr 2008 02:23:42 -0000

In my practice, I don't put a diaper on my very sick patients. It delays identification of a need and leads to skin breakdown. I don't want patients lying in soil for prolonged periods. Also, diapers seem to smoosh bowel content up into the genitals which can only lead to bad infections. On patients who are less ill, I think diapers are a bit demoralizing. As a mother of an 18 year old incontinent daughter, I use a pull-up type diaper that is more like panties. I toilet her religiously so she doesn't walk around in soiled diapers. She has NEVER has a urinary tract infection and never had skin breakdown. She isn't toilet trained, I am, but she is better for my effort. My last tip is to use a barrier cream like Critic-Aid Paste made by coloplast. I apply a thin layer to almost all my patients bottoms. It works to prevent breakdown. Perhaps in time, George Smitherman will learn what it's really like out there. The hard way. Rudee www.nursingpurls.blogspot.com

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Mon, 07 Apr 2008 20:34:48 -0000

It is not just nursing homes that are the problem. As soon as an elderly person with some mobility issue, ie a walker, gets admitted to hospital they are automatically put in diapers. It's easier for the staff than it is to toilet them. It's not just diapers going to landfill that is the problem, an elderly person with some health issues can die from a simple thing like a bladder infection that can turn into septic shock and death. Just ask me, I know all about it. http://theviewfromher.blogspot.com

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Kate Rauch — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 17:49:23 -0000

It's so great for this topic to generate helpful hints from people on both sides of the nursing home experience, patients and caregivers. Kay, your fax idea, and making friends with cleaning staff (another set of eyes on your mom). And the suggestion for bowel/bladder training -- I'll have to learn more about this. I also see a blog topic on "green" less toxic diapers. I know they're out there. Thanks for the ideas.

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Mon, 07 Apr 2008 17:21:47 -0000

I have worked in long term care facility's for over 20 years, the best ones don't use diapers routinely but put residents on a tolieting schedule, yes I have worked short staffed more often than I have worked fully staffed, but it can still be done . Also all of these diapers are ending up in our landfills which is disaster for the environment. Ask occupational therapist for help in a bladder/bowel training program for these facilities. The money will be well spent

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Kay — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 11:59:21 -0000

Two things helped me through the time my Mom spent in an Assisted Living Center. The first was a fax with the facts. Each time something good, or bad, happened, I sent a fax to the administrator. Without saying so, she knew we both had a copy. The second one is I befriended the cleaning lady, who had a special connection with my Mom. She couldn't accept gifts, but she could give me her home address. I sent gift cards periodically (ie WalMart). Many times she called me to give me a heads up about my Mom. These two steps were tremendous help during a long, four-year journey.

Comment on Wii Senior Sports Craze May Get Your Parents Moving

Kate Rauch — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 15:25:53 -0000

Yes, anonymous, Wii's are great for sitters, including people in wheelchairs. You can do the moves with your hands, arms, and upper body, kind of choosing how much effort to put in. When you get caught up in the fun and competition, the body kind of moves along with the game.

Comment on Aging Parents and Dental Care: A Life-and-Death Issue

Bex — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 04:33:18 -0000

You're so right: Dental care is crucial, especially since tooth trouble can interfere with good nutrition, which is so important for keeping our elders going! My dad's teeth need a lot of extra attention these days: It seems like they're in worse shape than the rest of him.

Comment on Falling: A Deadly Problem Helped by Prevention

Bex — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 04:25:38 -0000

This is so important. I really appreciate your writing about it. A single fall can break a hip and lead to a downward spiral in health and confidence and quality of life. After my mother fell, I was so worried, but it's been a huge help for her to get physical therapy. First the PT came to her house, and then later she was in good enough shape to go to the PT herself. They help her to build her balance by standing on one leg and learning to catch herself when she's in danger of falling over. I got her this book, which she read and liked: How to Prevent Falls, by Betty Perkins-Carpenter. And I read a research paper that said that wearing shoes, even around the house, can help prevent falls. Thanks again for being there!

Comment on When You Can't Check in With Your Parents, Cops (Often) Can

Bex — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 04:17:01 -0000

Interesting idea, especially for rural locations. My mom lives in an apartment building in a big city far from me. I try to call every day, but I don't always succeed. It's been a big help to know that she has neighbors and friends who live near her and who call her regularly. But if she lived in the country, I would definitely be checking into some senior check-in services. Thanks!

Comment on Wii Senior Sports Craze May Get Your Parents Moving

Bex — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 04:13:19 -0000

Seems like a nice way to bring my mom and son together--and get them both moving. Thanks!

Comment on Wii Senior Sports Craze May Get Your Parents Moving

Wed, 02 Apr 2008 00:16:15 -0000

Great idea! My grandson loves his wii and I never thought of it for my elderly father. It was good to see the woman in the wheelchair as I realize that he could bowl sitting down.

Comment on Wii Senior Sports Craze May Get Your Parents Moving

love torn — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 22:26:09 -0000

That seems like it would be great for the winter months

Comment on Aging Parents and Dental Care: A Life-and-Death Issue

Sat, 15 Mar 2008 22:30:04 -0000

Very interesting and useful. Micheal Moore was right, US healthcare has room to move forward.

Recent Comments for Kate Rauch on 'Caring Currents' | Caring.com

Comment on Bathing Blocks: When an Elder Refuses to Bathe

Comment on Yummy Soft Foods For Seniors

Comment on Kicked Off Hospice for Not Dying Soon Enough

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Comment on 10 Tips for Senior Care in a Rocky Economy

Comment on Enter the Caregiving Tough Love Zone

Comment on Home-Spun Gift Certificates: Unique, Meaningful, and Budget-Flexible

Comment on Home-Spun Gift Certificates: Unique, Meaningful, and Budget-Flexible

Comment on 6 Ideas for Getting Time Alone at Home When You're a Caregiver

Comment on 10 "Boredom Busters" for Frail Seniors

Comment on 10 "Boredom Busters" for Frail Seniors

Comment on 10 "Boredom Busters" for Frail Seniors

Comment on 10 "Boredom Busters" for Frail Seniors

Comment on 6 Ideas for Getting Time Alone at Home When You're a Caregiver

Comment on Vision Problems: New Ways to "Read" When Older Eyes Fail

Comment on Organizing Life Records Brings Relief to Seniors and Their Family

Comment on Organizing Life Records Brings Relief to Seniors and Their Family

Comment on For Family Caregivers, Saying "No" Is an Act of Love

Comment on Falling: A Deadly Problem Helped by Prevention

Comment on Elders Keep Falling a Secret for Fear of Losing Independence

Comment on Adaptive Senior Clothing: A Welcome Solution to Dressing Challenges

Comment on National Grandparents Day September 7: A Day to Reach Out to All Elderly

Comment on Vision Problems: New Ways to "Read" When Older Eyes Fail

Comment on National Grandparents Day September 7: A Day to Reach Out to All Elderly

Comment on Vision Problems: New Ways to "Read" When Older Eyes Fail

Comment on Shingles Vaccine Strongly Recommended for Seniors

Comment on Bathing Blocks: When an Elder Refuses to Bathe

Comment on Navigating Senior Care in a Bleak Economy: Part 1

Comment on Navigating Senior Care in a Bleak Economy: Part 1

Comment on "Wings" For Frail Seniors Who Can't Travel On Their Own

Comment on Shingles Vaccine Strongly Recommended for Seniors

Comment on Cupboards Bare? Rising Food Prices Affect Seniors

Comment on Cupboards Bare? Rising Food Prices Affect Seniors

Comment on Cupboards Bare? Rising Food Prices Affect Seniors

Comment on Cupboards Bare? Rising Food Prices Affect Seniors

Comment on Cupboards Bare? Rising Food Prices Affect Seniors

Comment on Mom Far Away? Cool Gift Ideas, and Yes, There's Still Time!

Comment on Mom Far Away? Cool Gift Ideas, and Yes, There's Still Time!

Comment on Embarrassment Assistance! The Gift of Plain Wrapping

Comment on Playgrounds for Seniors

Comment on Playgrounds for Seniors

Comment on Playgrounds for Seniors

Comment on Playgrounds for Seniors

Comment on Playgrounds for Seniors

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Comment on The Adult Diaper Wars: A Call to Arms!

Comment on Wii Senior Sports Craze May Get Your Parents Moving

Comment on Aging Parents and Dental Care: A Life-and-Death Issue

Comment on Falling: A Deadly Problem Helped by Prevention

Comment on When You Can't Check in With Your Parents, Cops (Often) Can

Comment on Wii Senior Sports Craze May Get Your Parents Moving

Comment on Wii Senior Sports Craze May Get Your Parents Moving

Comment on Wii Senior Sports Craze May Get Your Parents Moving

Comment on Aging Parents and Dental Care: A Life-and-Death Issue