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4 months ago
Let me see here "feeling guilty" When you were too young and unable to take care of yourself who did your grocery shopping, who paid your bills, who wouldn't have locked you away if you were deaf and sick when you were unable to care for yourself. And who did it every single day? Your mom and Dad. They devoted their life to taking care of you for most of it, enjoying you for some of it, then needing you cause they are unable to care for themselves, (and you won't have to be responsible for them for their last eighteen years like they were responsible for you for the first 18 years, plus. No wonder your feeling guilty... Your dad is probably wondering why you haven't moved them in with you or at least closer, if the hour, hour and a half, two hours, whatever, is just too far or takes too much of your oh so important time. How well do you think you would have done if they hadn't been there wiping your butt, or feeding you cause you didn't know how, or giving you medicine when you were sick? Or just being there to spend time with you? They weren't more concerned about if you'd drive them nuts when they decided to have a family. Lucky you they didn't decide you were just too much work and turned their back on you to have a life of their own without taking time for you.... You didn't think their life was more important than you when you needed them , how dare you think yours is more important than theirs when they need you. You sound very self-centered, selfish, and ungrateful. You should feel guilty. Quit your whining...
6 months ago
Ask the Caregivers to do some errands, shopping, appts, whatever. Plenty of them will---or get ones that will.!!!! You deserve the time with your parents to talk---whatever!!!! Do this immediately!!!! You deserve a life!!!! K
6 months ago
We all look for the best care we can get for our parents. If your mother's Caretaker is making unreasonable and ridiculous demands on the family, maybe you should remind the Caretaker they CAN be replaced. If that doesn't make a difference I would, if I were you , call a family meeting and look for a new one. It is not only hard for your Mom to go through what she is going through, it is very hard on your family, I know from experience. You certainly don't need any added stress because the Caretaker wants to play games.