The basic steps for delivering a eulogy
Giving a eulogy for a parent, other family member, or friend who has recently died isn't easy, but it's something you'll never regret doing. This is your opportunity to celebrate the person -- and to say good-bye. It's normal to feel some nervousness and apprehension, but remember that people have come to grieve and honor this individual -- not to critique what you've written or evaluate your public speaking skills. With this in mind, try to relax and focus on what you have to say.
Preparing the eulogy
When you write the eulogy, think about your personal vision of the person. Include the telling details and anecdotes that will help evoke his unique way of moving through the world, and try to avoid clichés, generalities, and passive language. Reading your first draft aloud will help you identify gaps and misstatements, clear up any confusing areas, and improve the flow.
Presenting the eulogy
If you have performance anxiety, delivering the eulogy may be the hardest part of the whole experience. Try to remember that you're speaking to a friendly audience. This isn't an audition, a popularity contest, or your day in court. Your audience is full of people who cared about the person -- and who care about you. You'll probably find that your nervousness gradually subsides once your speech is under way.
You may be tempted to rush through your reading, but try to resist the urge. Read slowly, and pause briefly between paragraphs and at the end of any story or poem. Take a glass of water with you to the podium, in case your mouth feels dry, and remind yourself to breathe. Look up between sentences. If you find that making eye contact with individuals in the audience is distracting, focus on a point in the back of the room.
If words fail you
Don't worry if you become choked up or your voice is shaky; no one will judge you for your expression of emotion. However, you may want to designate a friend or relative to be ready to take over if you can't continue.
The lost of a child is both tragic for the parents,but also to friends and other members the family such as aunts,uncles, cousins, and most of all Grandparents. This article has helped me understand the words said during a eulogy are not for the entertainment, but are a way to say good bye to someone we can not.
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This is great advice - delivering the eulogy can be a very daunting task, and is also one of the most important parts of funeral planning. Thanks for sharing your ideas!
Remember to give a copy of your eulogy (if you'd like, provide it in a sealed envelope) to the funeral director (or some other trusted designee) in case you can't give the eulogy for some reason. That way, the funeral director will have it available for someone to read for you on your behalf. I just attended a funeral and the person scheduled to give the eulogy was so overwrought with grief, he didn't even make it to the service. Others were so caught off guard, they were unable to step in on such short notice to celebrate this man's life with a thought out delivery. That poor person who put so much into writing the eulogy had double grief at not being able to carry out on what he'd been asked to do! Always have a Plan B!
Wow! Although I haven't had to face a eulogy for a parent yet, I guess I always thought it was something I would be unable to do. This article helped me realize that I WILL be able to do it when the time comes. As a very nervous public speaker, I was especially heartened to read something that I should have realized for myself: "Your audience is full of people who cared about your parent -- and who care about you. "