Kick off an ongoing photo project
Create a poster or a memory book that documents the life passages of those in your care, and keep it up to date with recent photos of grandchildren, graduation parties, and family trips. They may enjoy going through the photos with you and helping you write captions.
Create a memoir or an oral history
Many senior centers and assisted living facilities now offer classes on memoir writing for seniors. If you can't find a class or those in your care don't want to write their own story, encourage them to talk to you with a tape recorder running. Ask about their childhood, their experience during the war, their memories of their own parents. Talk to other family members to flesh out the family history and create an annotated family tree. Type up the results and include photos and illustrations.
Encourage a work-related legacy project
If their professional accomplishments are an important part of their legacy, help them maintain their connections to their life's work. Encourage them to subscribe to journals in their area of expertise or to serve as a mentor for a young colleague, if they're up to it. Keep an eye out for articles and books that might interest them.
If they've written books or papers or created pieces of art, make sure their life's work isn't just gathering dust in a box somewhere. Instead, create a special shelf to hold the books and papers or devote a wall to the paintings.
my wife created at 10 minute video of her dad's life for his 90th birthday. She's a graphic designer so is pretty computer literate. The final version still required that she hire a professional graphic designer to get it to it's final state. She worked with her dad (he insisted on final editorial control :-). During his second career he and a partner had started a thriving small business. Now that the video is done, he is in a panic because he is convinced that his partner will create a video that makes the Partner look good and him bad. Sometimes you just can't win.
More detail on ways of helping structure the oral history. Suggestions of comments or questions which could help to start the reminiscences without sounding like "So now that you're dying, tell me all about the stuff you should have told me before about your parents and life ..." Well, I'm not that bad, but some of the ways that I think about starting off sound a lot like that to me and my father is not someone who a) wants to admit that his life is almost done; b) is given to reminiscing, and c) talks freely about anything ... h'e a thinker not a talker.
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My mother has always suffered from low self-esteem/self-worth. As her dementia increased I made a couple of books for her. The first was simply a picture book of family and friends. It begins with her and her family, then Dad and his family, their family with each of us kids and our family in birth order,and ends with dear friends. The books is not a scrapbook of memorable times, simply the people in her life so she can match pictures to visitors, or simply remember the people. Each picture lists the person's name, relationship to her and their birth/death dates. Because my mother and I are quite close and I have so many marvelous memories of growing up wih her, I made a book titled "Do you remember..." in which I put pictures (clip-art, magazine clippings, etc.) and phrases relative to certain memories, especially crazy things like Do you remember...the day we both wore our bras backwards? Too much info, perhaps, but one of our treasured memories of simply being silly and laughing together. Or when she met my girlfriend and me at the local pizza place to which we had walkeed (not old enough to drive) and she said to place the order, she was on her way, and the three of us sat on the curb outside and ate the pizza. These memories are her legacy of what she gave to me, her common sense and especially her sense of humor and love. She can look at the book any time and remember the events. Even if she can't remember the specific events, she has the emotional warmth of having given ~me~ the memory.