- Don't go on too long. Keep the eulogy succinct and to the point.
- Try to stick to the eulogy you wrote and practiced. Unless you're an experienced speaker, adding a new idea at the last minute may cause you to lose the thread of your talk and begin to ramble.
- Be judicious with humor. Although a few jokes can lighten the tone of a memorial service, inappropriate or excessive humor can offend. Remember that you're not there to roast the person or other guests, and that feelings are likely to be more fragile than usual.
- Remember that it's a eulogy, not a chance to settle scores. If you're angry with the person for some reason or you have an ongoing feud with another friend or relative of the person, keep it out of the eulogy. A memorial service is not the time to introduce a bombshell or fan any flames.
- Don't be too hard on yourself. If the eulogy, or your delivery of it, doesn't go over as well as you'd hoped, try not to consider the experience a failure. It's difficult to be at your most creative and eloquent when you've just lost a loved one, and no one expects you to be. If you compose and deliver the eulogy with as much sincerity and feeling as you can, it will do the job of honoring the person, comforting the mourners, and providing you the chance to say thank you and good-bye.
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The lost of a child is both tragic for the parents,but also to friends and other members the family such as aunts,uncles, cousins, and most of all Grandparents. This article has helped me understand the words said during a eulogy are not for the entertainment, but are a way to say good bye to someone we can not.
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This is great advice - delivering the eulogy can be a very daunting task, and is also one of the most important parts of funeral planning. Thanks for sharing your ideas!
Remember to give a copy of your eulogy (if you'd like, provide it in a sealed envelope) to the funeral director (or some other trusted designee) in case you can't give the eulogy for some reason. That way, the funeral director will have it available for someone to read for you on your behalf. I just attended a funeral and the person scheduled to give the eulogy was so overwrought with grief, he didn't even make it to the service. Others were so caught off guard, they were unable to step in on such short notice to celebrate this man's life with a thought out delivery. That poor person who put so much into writing the eulogy had double grief at not being able to carry out on what he'd been asked to do! Always have a Plan B!
Wow! Although I haven't had to face a eulogy for a parent yet, I guess I always thought it was something I would be unable to do. This article helped me realize that I WILL be able to do it when the time comes. As a very nervous public speaker, I was especially heartened to read something that I should have realized for myself: "Your audience is full of people who cared about your parent -- and who care about you. "